Thursday, December 23, 2010

Kersgebed



 
Telkens weer ontdek ek dat rus alleen by U te vinde is;
besef ek: U alleen kan my onrustige hart tot vrede bring,
net U laat my innerlike onstuimigheid tot bedaring kom.

Vrede, U vrede, weet ek, kom na my wanneer U my aanraak,
wanneer U kom klop,
my met U helder stem laat hoor dat U hier is,
by my binnekom en
ek, bly, weet, U soek my op, U het na my verlang.

Niks van my, wat ek het, of wat ek is
sal my ooit naby aan U bring nie.
Alles wat vir my altyd so belangrik is,
my besittings, my kennis, my invloed, my vriende, my geliefdes
– is leeg, sonder sin,
totdat U dit alles gebruik om my in U teenwoordigheid te lei.

Here, maar gee dat ek op U sal wag, sal waghou in die goeie en slegte tye,
met alles wat ek het,
soekend na tekens van U koms,
om gereed te wees vir die Liefdestyd, die oomblikke van goddelike nabyheid.

Wat meer is daar om te doen as om te let, af te wag, te verlang, soos U dit doen…

En, skyn dan uiteindelik die Môrester vir ‘n tydjie helder in my nag van soeke, vertel dit my, bly, hoe naby die deurbreek van die laaste dag is,
die finale oomblik wanneer ek sal gaan woon
in U helder lig,
in U paradys,
in U vrede.
By U.

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Wat soos 'n rots vasstaan. Oor die liefde wat werklik saak maak.

Soms, nee, dikwels, wonder mense oor God…

Twyfel ‘n mens aan God…

Het ek God lief?, vra die soeker dan, al twyfelend.

Soms wil ‘n mens selfs nie eers die vraag vra nie, want die menslike hart is verduister deur die ondenkbare gedagte dat ons eintlik nie werklik erg het aan God nie. 

Soms wil ons hart nie regtig iets van God weet nie…

Of die teenoorgestelde is ook waar: Ons kan ook vir God met ‘n passie lief hê.

Maar wat bring ons eie liefde ons tog in die sak?  Maak dit saak?

Of ons min liefde vir God het, of oorloop van baie liefde vir God – watter verskil maak dit?

Wat tog veel meer werd is, waaraan ‘n mens nooit kan twyfel nie, wat soos ‘n rots vasstaan, is dat God óns lief het.

Dit sou ‘n ramp wees as ons op ons liefde vir God moet vertrou… 

Wie ontdek hoe onnaspeurlik en hoe onfeilbaar die goddelike liefde is, ontdek en leef in egte liefde. 

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Die eenvoud van die liefde. Oor geduld....

Tog opvallend bly dit dat Paulus in 1 Korintiërs 13 die liefde met heel alledaagse eienskappe verbind. Nadat Paulus vertel het dat ‘n mens sonder die liefde niks is nie – selfs al is jy die slimste en heldhaftigste mens, begin hy sy lys met die eenvoudige opmerking:

Die liefde is lankmoedig.

Dit is eenvoudig, alledaags, prakties.

Of, ‘n mens sou dit kon vertaal met die "liefde is geduldig." Die liefde raak nie gou opgewen nie.

Iemand wat lief het, kan geduldig wag.

‘n Mens kan die gedagte nogal verrassend toepas: Henri Nouwen skryf byvoorbeeld dat ‘n mens dikwels die beste herinneringe het aan iemand wat nie gou was om raad te gee nie, maar wat net in al ons pyn en lyding en swaarkry daar was.

As ‘n mens iemand lief het, kan ‘n mens geduldig wag dat daardie persoon deur die donker tye in sy of haar lewe worstel, sonder om allerhande raad aan hulle op te dring.

Hy skryf ook elders dat ‘n mens met liefde kan wag totdat dit wat nie sigbaar is nie, die verborgene, tot ‘n mens kom. As ‘n mens God lief het, kan ‘n mens in geduld wag totdat God se verborge bedoeling met ‘n mens se lewe vir jou duidelik word.

Maar, dink ek, ‘n mens hoef nie te ver verby die duidelike betekenis te loop nie. Die liefde is geduldig ook in die sin dat dit oop is vir alles wat nie na ons sin is en wat ons nie kan verander nie.

Die liefde is geduldig. Iemand wat in die liefde leef kan wag…


Terwyl ek hieroor nadink, kom die gelykenis van die Verlore Seun by my op. Die vader het geduldig vir die seun sy erfdeel gegee en toe geduldig op sy terugkeer gewag. Egte liefde.

Dit is 'n spieelbeeld van God - die Een wat geduldig wag op die huis toe kom van hulle wat weggegaan het... Egte liefde.


Lankmoedigheid is dus 'n kernmotief in spiritualiteit. Die mens wat in liefde deur God aangeraak en omvorm word, is 'n geduldige mens.



Monday, December 20, 2010

Verby die blink en die roem. Bybelstudie oor Openbaring 19.



Die brief aan Pergamum is die derde brief van Johannes in die reeks van sewe briewe aan sewe gemeentes.

Pergamum was, soos Efese, ‘n bekende en belangrike stad in Klein-Asië. Blink, bekend, indrukwekkend, invloedryk, ‘n toeriste-attraksie.

Die stad het pragtig op ‘n berg gelê en was met reusagtige terrasse al langs die hellings van die berg uitgelê. Teen die hellings was daar op verskeie vlakke ook verskeie belangrike geboue. Die beroemdste was die geweldig groot altaar vir Zeus wat op die spits gebou is, en dit was maar een van baie heiligdomme in die stad. In die stad was ook die bekende biblioteek en ‘n groot teater.  Dit was ook ‘n bekende sentrum vir die keiser-aanbidding.

Dit was dus ‘n plek waar ‘n mens oorweldig is deur kennis, kultuur, natuurlike skoonheid en indrukwekkende godsdienstige plekke.

Wanneer Johannes sy brief aan hierdie gemeente skryf, fokus hy onmiddellik op die lesers se woonplek.  “Ek weet waar jy woon…” begin die brief.

Die gehoor het regop gesit. God ken hulle woonplek….

Sekerlik kon Johannes nou allerhande indrukwekkende dinge opgenoem het. Die argeloë wat eeue later die altaar vir Zeus opgegrawe het, was so oorweldig deur die omvang en prag daarvan dat hulle dit uiteindelik en masse Berlyn toe geneem het waar dit vandag in ‘n spesiale museum deur massas mense besoek word. In die destydse wêreld het almal van die altaar geweet. Terwyl ‘n mens nog kilometers ver was, kon jy dit op die spits sien.  

Die woonplek moes, as ‘n mens dít en al die verslae daaroor bedink, oorweldigend gewees het.

Maar kyk hoe gaan die brief aan: “ek weet waar jy woon, waar die troon van Satan is.”

God kyk dieper, sê hierdie sin, en sien verby al die glans en glorie. God kyk nie vas teen die blink en die grootheid nie.

Julle bly in ‘n woonplek by die troon van Satan: hier, in julle midde, sê die brief aan sy begin, regeer Satan – die een wat die verleier is van die mensdom (Open.12:9). Dit is waar sy mag gesetel is. Hier wys hy sy spiere. Dit is nie ‘n buitepossie, ‘n vaal dorpie in die vlaktes nie. Hier woon julle in die hart van onreg en boosheid.

‘n Mens kan jou die emosies van die hoorders indink:  dít is dan hoe God oor hulle stad dink. En op daardie oomblik, in daardie woorde het hulle besef – God weet hulle bly in ‘n gevaarlike plek. God besef hoe hul geloof op die spel is. Dit is nie maklik om in só ‘n stad ‘n volgeling van Christus te wees nie.

God verstaan dat al die blink en die glorie en die roem die masker van groot boosheid is. En God huiwer nie om vir hulle reguit te vertel nie. Hulle was gelyk tevrede én ongerus. Om in Pergamum te woon, is nie kinderspeletjies nie. ‘n Gelowige wat daar woon, se lewe is op die spel.

‘n Mens kan dink met hoeveel emosie hulle hierdie woorde aangehoor het. Hulle het geweet dat God juis daarom na hulle wil uitreik.  Só is God immers altyd – naby hulle wat in lewensgevaar is…

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Teologie en spiritualitet. Sheldrake oor spiritualiteit.

Dit is ‘n fout om teologie en spiritualiteit teenoor mekaar af te speel asof hulle nie maklik versoenbaar is nie.

Ten minste speel teologie ‘n wesenlike rol in spiritualiteit.  

Sheldrake beskryf byvoorbeeld, verrassend genoeg, spiritualiteit as “teologie op twee bene.” Dit beteken dat spiritualiteit van ‘n individu of ‘n groep te doen het met hoe tradisionele oortuiginge oor God, die mens en die wêreld (teologie) deur ‘n mens vir jouself toegeëien word. Verder word hierdie oortuiginge deel van ‘n mens se houding, lewensstyl en aktitwiteit. Op persoonlike vlak het spiritualiteit te doen met hoe ‘n mens voor God staan in die konteks van ons daaglikse lewe.

Spiritualiteit weet dus van teologie, maar nie in 'n vryblywende sin van die woord nie. Teologie moet bene kry, moet konkreet voltrek word, moet geleef word, saam op reis geneem word. 

As ek na Sheldrake se siening van Spiritualiteit kyk, lyk dit vir my of hy twee dinge daaronder byeen wil bring. Aan die een kant is daar alles wat altyd oor God gesê is – al die tradisionele uitsprake oor God, die mens en die wêreld. Aan die ander kant is die praktiese ervaring daarvan, oftewel, soos Sheldrake dit stel, die teologie soos dit in ‘n mens na vore kom terwyl ‘n mens in hierdie wêreld aan die leef is. Teologie kry twee bene en begin reis, iewers in iemand se lewe. Al die tradisionele dinge werk in op ‘n mens se lewe of op ‘n groep se bestaan. ‘n Mens se houding, lewensstyl en dade word daardeur bepaal. Die eeue-oue ervaringe van God kom in ‘n mens se innerlike sit, word deel van die grein van jou wese en stuur jou beslissend in jou geestelike reis.

Dit is, as ek hom lees, nie bloot ‘n kwessie van die oue en die nuwe wat bymekaar uitkom nie, maar eerder dat die oue ook in ‘n nuwe tyd prakties uitgeleef en ervaar word. Wat tel, is die belewenis, die verwerkliking, die transformatiewe krag daarvan.

Spiritualiteit in hierdie sin is dus iets soos beleefde geloof. 

Soos Sheldrake dit stel, dit gaan om die persoonlike toeëiening van die tradisie.


Ek hou hiervan, want dit sny na albei kante. Teologie alleen is nie genoeg nie. 'n Teoloog kan alles weet en nogtans niks beleef nie. Dit is fout. Spiritualiteit kan 'n mens tot vele ervaring lei, maar dit kan sonder diepte en sonder anker wees. Uiteindelik moet dit ervaring van God wees, in gesprek en op reis saam met hoe mense deur die eeue vir God beleef het. 

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Onvry in die liefde. Oor volwassewording in die liefde.

Liefde, skryf Paulus, soek nie eie belang nie.

Dit is nie altyd so in die daaglikse lewe nie: Verhoudinge tussen mense is einlik nooit onselfsugtig en self-opofferend nie. ‘n Mens het dikwels ‘n verhouding met iemand anders omdat ‘n mens by daardie persoon veilig voel of daaruit voordeel kan trek.  In verhoudinge soek mense hul eie belang. Hulle gee om of gee liefde, solank as wat…..

Maar dit is onvolwasse liefde. Want in hierdie geval word die ander persoon tot ‘n mens se eie voordeel gebruik.  Dikwels word ‘n verhouding vermink deurdat mense mekaar wil besit.

Dit bring ‘n stryd in die mens se binneste. In spiritualiteit is ‘n belangrike deel van die geestelike groeiproses om steeds weer in groeinde mate eie belang af te sterf. In spiritualiteit ontwikkel ‘n mens ‘n bewussyn van die houvas van die eie, vervalle innerlikheid op ‘n mens. En dan groei die besef van ‘n mens se onvryheid. ‘n Mens sien raak hoedat jy in verhoudinge met ander eintlik nie vir hulle omgee nie. Daar is ‘n groeiende besef hoe ‘n mens verkneg word deur die strewe na die vervulling van eie behoeftes, eie voordeel, self-belang. ‘n Mens is die slaaf van jou eie begeertes en ‘n mens verslaaf die ander aan hierdie eie begeertes en belange.

Egte liefde is gerig op die ander persoon bloot net oor wie daardie mens is, nie wat daardie persoon vir ‘n mens kan beteken nie. Trouens, iemand wat ‘n ander lief het, vergeet dikwels spontaan heeltemal van sy of haar self, van eie belange. Volwasse liefde is vry van eie voordeel. Dit soek die belang van die ander.

Juis daarom is die geestelike groei ingestel op God, nie op eie menslike vordering of volmaaktheid nie. Wanneer ‘n mens oop is vir God, vir die verborge Wonder van God se teenwoordigheid, sterf ‘n mens aan jouself. En dit is juis daarom dat ‘n belangrike dissipline is om elke dag ingestel te wees om na mense te kyk soos God hulle sien. Met onvoorwaardelike liefde. Dit is ‘n uitdaging om so vry soos God te word – volkome vry in onvoorwaardelik liefde.

Ook hier gaan dit nie om hoe vroom ‘n mens in die liefde is nie. Of hoe ‘n mens uitblink in onselfsugtigheid nie.

Dit is die lewenskuns: om by ander te wees, hulle te bekyk, aan te hoor, ruimte te gee, te geniet, sommer net by hulle te wees. Bly te wees oor hulle prestasies, te troos in hul swaar tye, aan te spoor in hul inspanninge, te glimlag oor hul humor en gevathede.  Verwonderd te wees oor die rykheid van hul lewens en die mooiheid van hul menslikheid, of die feilbaarheid van hul foute en die swakheid van hul uithouvermoë.  En hulle in dit alles lief te hê – vir die betere en vir die slegtere wat hulle, soos ‘n mens self, in hul menswees herberg.

Wie by God woon, kan nie anders liefhê nie.  Dit is immer soos God lief het. 

Friday, December 17, 2010

Spiritualiteit as self-transendering

Spiritualiteit betrek altyd steeds weer 'n mens op 'n intense manier. 'n Mens tree as te ware uit jouself, leef verby jouself en beweeg weg van jouself. Dit het dus te doen met transformasie. 


Sallie McFague, sien ek, beskryf Spiritualiteit as die aandag vir, bewus wees van die ander (of dit nou 'n ander persoon, of 'n vorm van lewe of 'n natuurverskynsel of God, of selfs die self is), sodat 'n mens op die ander op 'n gepaste manier kan reageer. 


Spirituality is developing the attention to, awareness of, knowledge about, the other (whether another person, a lifeform or entity in nature, God, or even the self) so that one can respond to that other appropriately.


Sien haar : Super, Natural Christians: How we should love nature. (Minneapolis: Fortress Press, 1997), 10.


Iets om te bedink... 

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Lig, lig, lig moet ons oor die dood praat...

"Dood," skryf Paulus, lig, lig, lig, in sy beroemde hoofstuk oor die opstanding (1 Kor.15:53): "waar is jou oorwinning? Dood, waar is jou angel?"


Onvergeetlike woorde - woorde waaroor ons nie genoeg kan rumineer nie. Dit moet ons hartsgebed word. 


Op 'n heel ander manier sing Gesang 62:4 eintlik oor dieselfde gedagte:


Mense, soos die veld se blomme,
bloei maar vir 'n korte tyd;
ewig oor ons kleine kommer
waak Gods goedertierendheid;
Loof Hom, prys Hom! Loof en prys Hom - 
ewige geregtigheid.


God se goedheid is ewig daar. Terwyl ons ons so kwel en bedruk maak oor ons kleine kommer, waak God en wag God op die mens se tuiskoms. 


Lig moet ons oor die dood dink - lig, lig, lig. Dit is die oorgang na God se ewige goedheid. 

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Die verborge God

Hierdie vers was 'n gunsteling van Pascal:


Waarlik, U is die God wat U verborge hou.


Jesaja 45:15


God, wat volgens die res van die vers die God van Israel, die Heiland is, is nie 'n opdringerige God nie. Alleen 'n God van liefde kan so verborge wees....

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Die mooiste dinge in die lewe kom sonder 'n prys.

Ek kry onderstaande berig via Joekie en lees dit met aandag: 
Dit laat my dink aan vele aspekte van die geestelike lewenskuns: soberheid, onselfsugtigheid, vrygewigheid, goedheid, ontferming, sosiale bewussyn, regverdigheid, menslikheid en sensitiwiteit vir ander. 
Ek is ook weer bewus van die geweldige armoede op aarde. Om te dink - as 'n mens 14 000 pond verdien is jy onder die top 5 persent verdieners op aarde.... 
Miskien raak die berig my veral om weer te kan sien hoe min ' n mens nodig het om goed te kan lewe. En wat ten nouste hiermee saamhang is die volgende insig van Ord: "What's really important in our lives is spending time together, chatting with our close friends and reading beautiful books and listening to beautiful music, and we're really lucky to live in a beautiful place and there are lots of stimulating cultural activities around. With all that you can't really ask for much more."
Die mooiste dinge in 'n mens se lewe kom sonder 'n prys. 
Hier is die berig:
Toby Ord is a university researcher earning not much more than the average salary. So why is he giving away £1m over his lifetime to help address global poverty?
When Facebook founder and billionaire Mark Zuckerberg pledged to give away most of his wealth during his lifetime, some British commentators bemoaned the lack of philanthropy on this side of the Atlantic.
But an academic at Oxford University is living off little more than £300 a month in an act of charity-giving that is arguably more impressive than those of Zuckerberg, Gates, Buffett and co.
Toby Ord, 31, has in the past year given more than a third of his earnings, £10,000, to charities working in the poorest countries. He also gave away £15,000 of savings, as the start of his pledge to give away £1m over his lifetime.
Toby Ord's lifestyle

·         Income: £25,300, rising to £33,000 in coming year
·         Giving to charity: Everything above £18,000
·         So far: he's given £25,000
·         Outgoings: £5,000 rent, £4,000 living expenses, rest on savings for house and holidays
·         Plus: Eating out twice a fortnight, coffee once a week
·         Interests: reading, listening to music, photography, meeting friends
·         Gadgets: Apple Mac, iPhone, no television

And he's started a campaign to recruit, Bill Gates-style, other people to give up at least 10% of their lifetime's earnings in the same way. A year on, 64 people have joined his movement Giving What We Can and pledged £14m.
Given his personal sacrifice, it's difficult not to feel rather intrigued about the kind of lifestyle he can maintain while so much of his earnings is going elsewhere.
And heading to Oxford to find out, there's a fleeting thought that we'll be sharing tea bags in a caravan parked on the banks of the Thames.
Instead, the Ord household inhabits a rented one-bedroom flat in a beautiful sandstone house in the heart of the city. But the interior is as modest as the exterior is glorious, furnished sparingly in a style reminiscent of student digs. There is no television, through choice rather than hardship, but plenty of books and DVDs.
The only signs of indulgence are the two Mac computers, for Ord and his wife, although as he points out, they are used so much that the cost works out at a few pence per hour. And he has an iPhone, which also helps him work.
Giving away a tenth of one's earnings is something most people in the UK can achieve without having to make much of a sacrifice, says Ord, who was born and raised in Melbourne, Australia.
"That's probably surprising because if you did a survey of 100 people, 99 would say they couldn't.
"When I was earning £14,000 as a student, I found I was in the richest 4% in the world, even adjusting for how much further money goes in developing countries.
"Giving away 10% of that, I found that I would still be in the top 5%. So while it can seem impossible to live on less, if your employer was to suddenly pay you less, you would get by somehow."
Ord gives away much more than a tenth. A year ago, he vowed to give away everything he earned above £20,000 and his wife, Bernadette Young, a medical doctor in the NHS, set a target of £25,000. After his first year, he has lowered his personal allowance to £18,000.
Ultimately, there weren't any big sacrifices, he says, and they still maintain a reasonable middle-class existence.
"What's really important in our lives is spending time together, chatting with our close friends and reading beautiful books and listening to beautiful music, and we're really lucky to live in a beautiful place and there are lots of stimulating cultural activities around. With all that you can't really ask for much more.
"I've also changed the way I look at the world. I don't want more stuff. If someone said to me 'Here's one thousand pounds' and I had to spend it on myself I would feel anxious about that because I just want to help people more and it would be a very frustrating time."
Ord lives in a rented flat in Oxford
He goes out for dinner about once a fortnight and for coffee about once a week. In the past year he spent £5,000 on rent to his employer and landlord, Balliol College. His wife pays the same amount. He kept £4,000 to live on and pay the bills, while still having enough to spend on a week's holiday in France and Italy, and put some away to buy a house.
Incidentally, in 10 years, Ord and his wife, who have no children, will have given away a sum that equals the average price of a house in the UK, just at a time when they will hope to have bought one themselves.
"When it began, I would be down in the supermarket agonising about whether to buy a more expensive cereal or not but I realise that's a road to a nervous breakdown and that it was much more sensible to work out at the start what you can live on [give away the rest in a lump sum] and then after a year readjust - can I live on less, am I pushing it too hard - instead of perpetually agonising about it."
It was while he was studying for a masters degree in philosophy that Ord came across the idea of sacrificing luxuries in order to save a life. He estimated that over his own lifetime he would need about £500,000 to live comfortably, and would therefore be able to give away £1m to those people in most need. But who are they?
"Some people think that the most important thing is to help the people who are the worst off. I think that's not always the case. What's really important is to help people as well as you can and often the people the worst off are easier to help, but not always.
"For example, someone in the UK suffering from severe depression has possibly a worse life than people I help in Africa or South Asia but it turns out that it's really difficult to help that person, but much easier to help the person abroad.
"I'm not as focused on where people are, as how much I can help them. A lot of people can switch off when they hear 'cost-effectiveness' but if you only have a certain amount of money then the real question is how much you can do with it."
Using the methodology of the World Health Organisation in calculating how much a sum of money can "buy" in terms of extending the lives of those in need, he says medical interventions in developing countries can be 10,000 times more cost-effective than those in the UK. And he carefully researches which charities he thinks make the most difference.
Giving away a third of your income doesn't preclude the odd luxury
The £10,000 he gave away last year he says equates to 4,000 extra years of life at full health for people in those countries where those charities do their work.
That's all very well and to be applauded but wouldn't it be, well, more British, to do this quietly? Not if you want to encourage others to do the same, says Ord.
"It's not that amazing. I'm not that impressed by this, but I'm glad that people feel it's a good story. The median income is £18,000 so I'm not living off anything less than the median person in the UK.
"It's quite possible to present this as a very positive thing. You can help people so much without impacting on your own life. We can still live a middle-class life on this kind of money."
He's aware of the arguments people have against giving to charities in the developing world, such as corruption and overpopulation, and he sets out to address them on a section of his website.
Echoing the philosophy of Bill Gates, who believes going public encourages other people into acts of generosity, Ord set up Giving What We Can to share ideas about "good" charities and inspire each other. The figure of a tenth originates from the Christian tithes, a tradition that many people still follow today.
Some of his members give more away than that, but Ord insists he never makes those that don't feel guilty about it.
"There is a strong moral obligation to give some away but I wouldn't like to say how much. We're not saying that if you don't join up you're a bad person. "There used to be conflict between what I wanted and what I thought was right and that was frustrating, but over time it was just what I thought was right."
He used to feel guilty seeing poverty on television but giving away part of his wealth has liberated him, and he says it gives meaning to his life.
"I've made some simple material sacrifices but sufficiently small that I don't really care about them. In terms of emotional comfort, you feel more satisfied with what you're doing with your life."
The promise of a warm glow inside, no matter how many lives saved, may be a hard sell at a time of such belt-tightening and cuts, but Ord responds that the UK remains a very wealthy country, compared with many others.
And his own budget-trimming doesn't extend to Christmas spending. He did his shopping early and posted the presents to relatives in Australia, which he plans to visit next year.
A far greater gift awaits thousands of others.
A selection of your comments appears below
I don't want to belittle what is clearly a very significant and generous gesture but this couple's combined income AFTER charity giving is significantly more than my household income with three children to raise
Nick, Yorkshire
Fantastic! What an inspiring article...I manage to give about 10% but wish it could be more (on a single, not-particularly-high-income it's not easy right now, but I'm going to look at it in the new year) I hope more people follow Mr. Ord's example - I have found giving, even when I have to badger myself into doing it, to be so rewarding. Giving money away somehow makes what I'm left with feel like riches; generosity begets gratitude.
Rachel, West Midlands
Interestingly, If they were to take the same amount of money and invest it wisely, (shares, real-estate etc) I strongly suspect that once growth kicks in they could give away far more total money over their lifetime, whilst also building up a stock of assets that will provide for them into retirement. These assets could then be given to chosen charities as a bequest when no longer needed. I'm not criticising the sentiment or the action - just the method.
Mike, Bolton
All good and well, but what some charities need is your time. So if you have no spare cash then give a couple of hours a week..... you may like it.
Shelly, Birmingham
Sad thing is when he is old and low on money because he has given his wealth away then he will find that nobody is willing to help him. For sure he will find that he has given away far too much. Giving what you can afford is one thing but he is giving away far more than he can afford for sure.
Dai Jones, Swansea
Very generous on his part but it's not for me. I work long and hard for my money and have two children to provide for. I have a retirement to plan for and want to be in a position to enjoy it. I still do my bit for charity and I am happy with that. I do note that his wife has a very well paid job and they have no children to provide for. It's easier to be generous when not worrying about shoes, school trips etc.
Dave Griffiths, Pershore, Worcs
A commendable act. While not for everybody, still an inspiration and an encouragement to all to recognise how well off they are and how much they can do to help other. Really disappointing to see people using having children as an excuse for not giving to charity! For a start - having kids is your choice! Secondly, Ord's point is that while you may feel poor you are doubtless, by world standards, fairly well off. Lastly - how disappointing that the very fact that you have children has not led you to want to a: set an example to them and encourage them to help others through charitable giving, and b: feel more for children who are perhaps not as lucky as your own.
Zoe, Devon
Great example of human kindness, if we had more of this in the world we would experience the shift we all hope to see one day.
Ian, London
What an interesting cross section of comments here. So many opinions and criticisms on such a beautiful act. While I understand that Mr. Ord's income is on the higher side of middle class and his wife earns an even higher income, that's not exactly the point. I think today's society (on both sides of the Atlantic) tends to value frivolous wealth, celebrity, material status symbols, etc. Mr. Ord isn't asking people to match his monthly donation. He's pointing out that most of us do engage in some small level of luxury that is not essential to a fulfilling life. Even if you can only spare $5 a week, put it in a jar and at the end of the year you've got well over $200 to donate.
Carolyn, Rochester NY, US
A laudable endeavour but his wife is a NHS doctor! If they gave away the same percentage of their joint income I'd be more impressed.
Chad, Lincoln
In response to those people who think "it's all very well for you, but I can't afford to give", I'd like to reiterate Ord's comment: "So while it can seem impossible to live on less, if your employer was to suddenly pay you less, you would get by somehow." And Ord is talking about doing lots of good in the world and still living a happy life - so he's suggesting sacrificing odd luxuries or switching to cheaper hobbies, and if you can't afford 10%, "We're not saying that if you don't join up you're a bad person."
Sharon, Brighton



Monday, December 13, 2010

En toe gaan die teoloog....


Die drie kom moeg aan op ‘n plaas aan waar daar net een slaapkamer met twee beddens is.

Die boer wil hulle graag help en sê daar is ‘n stal waar daar ‘n hoop hooi is. Hy kan ‘n kombers daar gooi en die derde een kan heerlik die nag daar slaap.

Hulle aanvaar dankbaar die aanbod en is diep beïndruk deur die boer se bedagsaamheid.

Die Hindoe bied eerste aan om in die stal te gaan slaap. Hy vat sy tas en loop na die stal. 



Maar twintig minute later is daar ‘n klop aan hulle slaapkamerdeur. Toe die twee die deur oop maak, staan die Hindoe bedremmeld en vol verskonings daar.

Julle weet, sê hy vir die ander twee, ek is ‘n baie gelowige mens. In die stal is daar ‘n koei en vir ons is ‘n koei ‘n heilige dier. Ek kan uit eerbied nie daar in die stal slaap en die koei se rus dalk versteur nie. Ek is regtig jammer hieroor, maar ek weet julle sal verstaan.



Die ander twee knik meelewend en besorgd hul koppe.

Die Moslem is baie vriendelik en bied dadelik aan om in die stal te gaan slaap. Hy pak sy goedjies in sy tas en sit gewillig af na die stal. 



Maar na twintig minute is daar ‘n klop aan hulle kamerdeur. Toe hulle die deur oopmaak, staan die Moslem, ook bedremmeld, voor die deur.

Julle weet, sê hy vir die ander twee. Ek is ook ‘n baie gelowige mens. In die stal is daar ‘n vark en vir ons is ‘n vark onrein. Ek sal nie vanaand daar kan slaap nie. Ek is seker julle sal kan verstaan hoe onmoontlik dit vir my sal wees om daar te moet slaap.

Die derde persoon is ‘n teoloog. Hy sit ewe vriendelik vir sy maats dat hy dan graag in die stal gaan slaap en sit flink en braaf af na die stal.

Twintig minute later is daar ‘n klop op die slaapkamer-deur. Toe die twee die deur oop maak, staan die koei en die vark voor die deur……

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Nooit na genoeg aan God nie. Oor spiritualiteit as proses.


Kersfees, Nuwe jaar, adventstyd, pase met Goeie Vrydag, Pinkster – al hierdie bakens in die kerklike jaar wys op die gedurige vloei in mense se lewens.

Elke keer weer beweeg die gelowige gemeenskap na ‘n ander, nuwe fase. Dit is ‘n vloeibare proses van groei. Dit is ook nie maar net ‘n herhaling van dieselfde fases nie. Jaar na jaar ervaar ‘n mens nuwe momente van pase, van kersfees – en kry dit nuwe, dieper betekenis in ‘n mens se lewe.

Maar daar is ook heelwat ander tekens van gedurige verandering en groei.

Soms kom daar in de kerk nuwe, bruisende lewe na tye van swaarkry en teleurstellings. Herlewingsfases volg op tye van dorheid en verstarring. Dan weer is daar tye van vernuwing, opwinding en bewuswording van God se intieme nabyheid.  Ook ons ervaring van geloof is ‘n proses wat sy, soos mense dit soms beskryf, sy valleie-tye en sy pieke-momente het.

‘n Mens het nie ‘n finale, afgeronde netjiese verstaan van God en nou is alles mooi in plek nie. Om te glo is ver van ‘n klomp teologiese waarhede te kan neerpen en opsê. Asof ‘n mens alles uitmekaar kan pluis en uitspel. Spiritualiteit fokus op God se verhouding met die mens wat telkens weer op nuwe manier aan die mens se lewe verander. Dit is ‘n proses wat alle kante van ‘n mens se lewe raak- wat jy doen, dink, ervaar, glo, vier en vele ander.

Christus se lewe is die beste voorbeeld daarvan. “Julle het gehoor. Maar Ek sê vir julle…”

Terwyl ek hieroor lees vandag, tref dit my dat hierdie groei in die geloofslewe ‘n groei in intimiteit is. In ‘n liefdesverhouding kan ‘n mens nooit genoeg weet van jou liefdesmaat nie. Gedurig weer, soos Levinas dit beskryf, ontdek jy nuwe, ander dinge in die ander. Hoe nader ‘n mens aan iemand kom, hoe groter en intiemer die band. Só is dit ook met God: ‘n mens, byvoorbeeld, is bewus van  God se heiligheid, liefde en vrede. Maar steeds weer bring God mense tot dieper vlakke van heiligheid, liefde en vrede. En op die manier word God en mens deur vele bande aan mekaar gebind.

Hierdie ervaringe verdiep gedurig. En dit kring uit. Dink maar aan God se heiligheid: om vir die eerste keer deur God se heiligheid geraak te word, kan ontsetting bring. Harde korse van selfsug, self-beheptheid, kwaad, ongevoeligheid en vele vorme van kwaad word deur God se heiligheid en heilige aanraking stukkend gebreek (Heb.12:10!). Dit bring pyn, verset, selfs verwerping.

Maar God se heiligheid bly ‘n mens aantrek en nader roep. God is immers in heiligheid die volmaakte, die Een wat totale liefde is, wat totale liefde gee, wat suiwer reinheid en skoonheid is. In ‘n verminkte, siek wêreld, roep die hart uit na ‘n ruimte sonder kwaad – steeds dringender, steeds met groeiende verlange. En hoe meer ‘n mens van God se heiligheid hoor, hoe meer wil ‘n mens in die Heilige God se nabyheid wees.

Spiritualiteit is dus die geestelike lewensreis wat soek om verdieping. Om te glo beteken om deel te wees van ‘n proses wat al hoe verder in die kern van ons bestaan indring. Godsdiens is dan nie meer ‘n oppervlakkige saak waarin mense, soos die Fariseërs allerhande godsdienstige pligplegings nakom nie. God, het die profete in die Ou Testament al uitgeroep, stel meer belang in liefde en geregtigheid as in allerhande offerandes en rituele.  Spiritualiteit wil juis beklemtoon dat ‘n mens nog nie aangekom het as ‘n mens kerklik aktief is nie. Trouens, om “aan te kom” is om te weet dat ‘n mens nooit na genoeg aan God kan kom nie. 

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Heiligmaking en 'n boot

Die man ry op sy bootjie in die rivier, lees ek in die boek oor spirtualiteit. Iemand bots onverwags teen hom en hy draai vies om om met die persoon te raas. Behoorlik uit sy humeur uit, roei hy verder - en 'n ent verder voel hy weer hoe stamp 'n boot van agter teen hom.Woedend draai hy om, reg om nog kwater los te trek en te raas.

Die boot wat teen hom gebots het was leeg.

Die ervaring het by hom bly vassteek. En van toe af, as hy op die punt was om sy humeur te verloor, het hy aan 'n boot gedink wat leeg is.

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